Does Having a Cesarean Make You Weak?

There is this common belief among women today that having a caesarean makes a woman weak or defeated. Either she is too afraid to give birth vaginally, so she is weak, or her planned vaginal birth does not go as planned and she feels defeated by having a caesarean. This is an unhealthy mindset. Though I am an advocate for natural vaginal births, I am also an advocate for women’s rights and choices in birth. Continue reading

The Cycles of Labour: Pleasure vs Pain

The process of birth is all about cycles whether they relate to pleasure, pain, or intervention. The physical aspect of birth is highly dependent on our emotions. The two main cycles have to do with our emotional and physical being: love/pleasure and fear/pain. Once one series begins, it can continue all the way through your birth. However, it is just as easy to change cycles as it is to continue with another. With some help from your birth team, you (the birthing mother and birth partner) are able to guide yourselves emotionally to determine which path your birth will follow. Continue reading

How to Give Yourself a Natural and Positive Birth Experience

I have had discussions with many women about their views on natural birth. Their comments were similar to what many women think of natural birth: it is an interesting concept, but not for them. One opinion that struck me recently was when a woman stated “[d]eep down I hope that when I am ready to produce babies, I can do so naturally in my home, standing up.” She knows that she wants to have a natural birth experience, and yet she views the possibility of having her own birth being natural as “just like a fantasy story in [her] brain…” Another woman expressed how she believes that it “takes a strong set of people to go through childbirth au-naturale.” It is amazing how some women today are aware that natural birth is their ideal plan, but when the idea of their capabilities is brought into question, they do not believe they can do it. Every mother-to-be wants a positive birthing experience: one where she feels safe and in good hands. But what does this look like and how can a mother actively give herself a positive experience? When it comes down to it, yes; an experienced birth team is highly helpful. However, the birthing mother and partner have more power than they often believe. Here are a few tips for labouring women and their partners to consider during their big day. Continue reading

Birth: The Ultimate Sexual Experience

The feelings of pleasure during childbirth are rarely discussed among women today. Often when the topic of labour arises, mothers will mention how painful it is. Likewise women and girls who are not yet pregnant will remark how they are afraid of the pain associated with birth. Some will even say that they never want children due to this discomfort. Instead of thinking of birth as a catastrophic event, why not think of it more positively as a sexual experience? There will be some skeptics who will say that birth should not be sexualized. A baby is so innocent, it is wrong to even think of them giving the mother something as inappropriate as orgasmic pleasures. But sex and birth are two life events that most women experience. Both events ask us to become vulnerable and trust the people who we share these moments with. Thinking of birth as if it were a sexual experience will help women to not fear the pains of labour, but rather become excited for the sensations that they will feel. Continue reading